Does Romance mean Sex

hello all,

Does ROMANCE MEANS SEX? or does Love + romance=Sex?
Of course not! NO NO NO! Sex is just sex (S= selfish, E= Enjoyment with X= Anything) but romance means a whole lot more things and it includes words and actions that both persons forming a relationship do together or to each other to show affection.

Romance is an action that contributes towards affections and actions by both parties that would make them become closer. It makes one or the other party FEELS SPECIAL. Romance can be the man holding a door open for the lady, show due respect, present her with a stalk or a bunch of flowers, send her/him a card, a box of choc to him/her, (men do love chocs too), kissing in the rain, surprises, fixing the kitchen sink, getting your hands dirty to fix the car, etc.

Romance can only fluorish if you allow it to come to you from the person whom you like. There must be 2 like minded person. After all, you need 2 hands to clap.

Rmance means Small thoughts and expressions, to show someone how special they are. It’s about the details, the effort taken for such nitty gritty stuff to brighten someone's life. Now, THAT is ROMANCE!

Everyday can be a romantic day. Eeryday can be Feb 14th. you need not wait for D-Day to send flowers or have this romantic feeling.

Women generally tend to have this pre-defined bullet points of how the partner should do to be romantic. she would be sorely disappointed when he fails several of the criterias or ALL of the criterias.

Romance can easily mean being there when you needed him the most, about giving emotional support, being a punching bag, a shoulder to cry on and lots more. What is the point of being romantic when he is not there when you needed him the most? RIGHT?

Most asian girls lament that their partner are less romantic compared to the westeners. Well, like we said earlier, if he is there for you when u needed him the most, now that is being romantic already. You must look below the surface of it all.

Advice for women: throw away that bullet points of yours and re-define romance. Give to receive. You need to act too by showing some small gestures to build that romance.
Advice for men: Be there when she needed you most, do not be stingy and buy some small gifts now and then to pamper her.


Well, Happy dating!

What to do if he is late?

hi all,

A comment said that guys do not call back too soon so as not to sound pushy. well, here is our thought.

if he takes a few hours to return call, then take a few hours to pick up. Monkey see, monkey do. This will keep the relationship reciprocal and balanced.

Men do not want to seem too eager. Women need to be independent. and not too eager even if he is the last Male on this planet earth.

When you go out dating, if the guy is late for a 7 pm date, the woman could call at 7:15 to ask where he is. If he is on the way, then it is ok. You can call again by 7:30pm. Do not seem desperate. do not call every 5 mins. The good girl will call every 5 mins and still be nice and sweet to him. (even though deep down she thinks she could jump down his throat. *Smile)

The woman of the 21st century will ask by 7:30 if he is showing up, and tell him that if he is not showing up in 10 mins time, she is leaving to do her own stuff (even if she has no stuff to do) .

That will definitely make him appreciate his date more.

Happy Dating!

Cheers,

Speed dating Team